At work, I have a reputation for being aloof and distant. I’m not included when my co-workers get together for lunch or after work. I am very sensitive and an introvert so it’s difficult for me to put myself out there and let them know there is much more to me than what they see from the outside. I want to be included but not sure how to make that happen. Can you help me?
Dear Tender One,
First, I’d like to congratulate you on reaching out for assistance and sharing this with me. I understand your dilemma but sometimes the change we want to see has to happen within ourselves first. We are not always aware of our own personal energies and how strongly they can affect others. To begin, let’s try building your confidence a little.
I suggest starting with the following:
- Upon waking and before reaching your place of work, anticipate a happy day.
- Recall a memory of a special occasion that made you feel good inside. This can become your go-to feeling that puts a genuine smile on your face.
- When you arrive at work, greet your fellow colleagues with that smile ensuring that you also make eye contact. This will send the message that you are open to friendly communication.
Studies have proven that when someone smiles at us, our brains release endorphins that make us feel happy and calm. So smile often and enjoy the smiles you’ll receive in return.
November/December 2021 Issue 1